Will I Find My Soulmate? Today on Ask Cahlen I will be answering the question, Will I find my soulmate? A soulmate is generally thought of as someone we incarnated into this life with and with whom we are destined to enter into a life-long intimate relationship. While I suspect soulmates exist, I think it is better to think of these things in terms of an ideal partner so as not to invoke thoughts of destiny which tend to corrupt our decision making. truth